The Barbershop: A Place for Fathers and Sons

I never take for granite the time I spend with my two boys. They are really starting to make that transition where they like to occupy their time without the presence of mom and dad. My wife and I spend a lot of time with the boys; from music lessons and baseball to watching movies and assisting them with homework. But one of the things I really enjoy are the trips to the barbershop with my boys.

 Drew getting a fresh haircut for his first day at middle school.

Drew getting a fresh haircut for his first day at middle school.

The barbershop is a place where grown men congregate, socialize and catch up on society, community and entertainment. Gentlemen who have no relationship with each other are able to naturally bond and formulate discussions with each other for a brief time period. And just like the movie Barbershop, there is no topic that is off limits. It is also, a place where you see a lot of great fathers like myself spending time with their sons.

Do you remember sitting in the barbershop chair, holding your son when he got his first haircut? Or the last time your son required a child booster seat? Or when he grew his hair out like James Harden and then he finally decided to cut it? I do. A lot of great memories have been created at the barbershop.

This is who I am. And whether you believe it or not, I’m gonna be like this tomorrow.
— Isaac from the movie Barbershop

For me, it is an opportunity to spend quality time with my boys. My two boys probably view it as just a place to get a haircut, but when they get older they will also view it as an institution that serves a role in their lives. And if they have boys, they will feel a personal satisfaction of taking their boys to the barbershop as I do. Although some barbershop discussions might be beyond comprehension for kids, those discussions are still important because they get to see how men communicate. They get to see how men interact. They get to see growth in themselves.

Now that my oldest is 13, I think now would be a good time to watch the movie Barbershop.
— D. Turner, Sr.

My boys may not realize it now, but eventually they will view the barbershop as a place of self expression. A place where they can be themselves. For me it is one of the only places I get to hangout with my sons and spending time with them is of great importance to me. When they get older, we will sit at the bar and have a couple beers, but for now the boys and I will enjoy our routine visits to the barbershop.